What is ‘worry’?

Worry is not only thinking that something bad might happen. It’s also having busy thoughts. Wondering how everything is going to turn out; trying to plan everything; wondering what others are thinking; wondering what others are doing; wondering how others will react to our action(s) – all of these are worry. These thoughts can make it difficult to hold our focus and stay in the moment, and they can prevent us from getting a good night’s sleep.

“Sure I worry, but is it a bad thing?”

Worry is often used as a means of control over our loved ones, and indicates that judgment, criticism and condemnation have already taken place. Many believe that if we don’t worry about our loved ones, it means that we don’t care about them; however, when we worry about someone, it is in effect saying that we think they are incapable of doing the right thing, or that we think they will come to some harm if they continue doing whatever it is they are doing. This attitude can infuriate those on whom it is inflicted; it can tear relationships apart.

Habitual, excessive worry can manifest in physical as any/all of the following: anxiety (panic attacks), chronic bleeding nose, tinnitus and other ear problems, digestive problems, hair loss, insomnia, nail biting, chronic pain, always seeming unhappy.

How to change the pattern: Visit my website and do the how to stop worrying exercise.


Restorative Justice

What’s the best way to honour those who are harmed by criminal and/or violent acts? Surely revenge is not the answer, for violence can only beget more violence. Forgiveness alone is not the answer either though – it’s not enough since it doesn’t necessarily involve the offender. Is there a system that can enable victims to feel that justice has been served? Is there a system in addition to incarceration or violent punishment that can enable perpetrators to recognize that their actions caused harm and that they are responsible for their actions? There is, and it’s called, “restorative justice”.

Restorative justice (RJ) is a philosophy and an approach that views crime and conflict as harm done to people and relationships. It is a non-adversarial, non-retributive approach to justice that emphasizes healing in victims, accountability of offenders, and the involvement of citizens in creating healthier, safer communities. The goal is to reach meaningful, satisfying, and fair outcomes through inclusion, open communication, and truth. Restorative Justice Week will be held in Canada, and throughout the world, from November 19-26, 2017. The theme for the week is Inspiring Innovation. #RJWeek

Discover the many uses of RJ. Explore how RJ can deal with harm in different situations: families, neighbourhoods, schools, workplaces, etc. Think about how RJ values and principles can be applied to every day challenges.

Canada’s Restorative Justice Week is November 19-26 2017

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Passage of time

Why does time seem to speed up as we get older? For the most part, the speed of time is constant when we are in human form on planet earth. So why is it that when we’re young, one minute can seem like an hour, yet when we’re older, an hour can seem like a minute, or even a second?

To try to shed some light on this common experience, let’s compare drivers of automobiles to humans walking their life path.

Like drivers in normal road conditions with many points of reference guiding them as to their rate of speed, young children have many visible points of reference to provide them with a sense of the passage of time. Children tend to notice everything because it’s all new; we’re learning Everything. Almost every moment is full of new information and every experience is new and exciting, so there are many points of reference.

Drivers in whiteout conditions often speed up – unwittingly – because there are no visible points of reference; there’s nothing to be seen except white, to tell us how fast we’re moving. We speed up in an effort to find points of reference. As we age, we become more like drivers in whiteout conditions. Because exciting or new experiences occur less often, there are gradually fewer and fewer points of reference: we increasingly lose sense of the present moment and every moment almost seems to blend into one long moment – like whiteout conditions on the road. Unceasing repetition of the same old experiences lulls us into an almost hypnotized state of being.

We can get so caught up in the search for new points of reference that we unconsciously ‘speed up’, thereby losing our innate ability to live in the moment.

Inevitably, our search for points of reference takes us into the realm of Worry.

Free Will

Free will is the most important of the spiritual laws governing humankind. Many people are familiar with the idea that humans have free will to make their own choices; in fact, Planet Earth is often called ‘the free will planet’. But free will goes far beyond simply being able to choose which action to take and when. It is the ability to choose what to think, what to desire, what to feel and how to react; even more importantly, it is the ability to believe whatever we want to believe. The Universal Intelligence, God, the Creator, Source, whatever you choose to call ‘it’, helps us maintain and even strengthen our belief systems – whether they are based in Universal Truth or not. Whatever our belief, the Universe will allow us to experience, in physical, the outcomes of such a belief. That is free will in action, and that is partly why it is so important to be aware of our core belief systems: they are the foundation upon which our physical body rests, and upon which our life experiences depend.

Free will is also our opportunity to choose between doing what we want and doing that which the Universal Intelligence requires of us. There is only one way to find what God requires of us, and that is to ask God, through our own personal teacher/companion guide. Only they have the Universal Truth of what God requires of us as individuals. If we do not ask what is required of us, the information will not be given (because it would interfere with our belief(s). If we rely upon another person to tell us what God wants us to do, or upon information that is presented in a book (any book) or on television, or on the internet, we will not find God’s Truth of what is required for us as individuals – we will find only what another human thinks we should do; thus the importance of regular communication with our own guide.

The flip side of the free will coin is unconditional love. We are all children of the Universal Intelligence and we are each loved unconditionally at all times; therefore, we are never judged, criticized or condemned by God or his representatives. However, we are not excused from responsibility. The Universe allows there to be consequences for our choices and our thoughts, attitudes and emotions. The consequences may not always be pleasant – they may even be painful – but the individual is still entitled to communication, guidance, teaching and unconditional love throughout the entire life experience, whether or not we think it is deserved. However, just because we have free will does not mean that we are in charge: our lessons will be presented according to the Universe’s timing and in whatever way they see as best for our spiritual growth. They will test us relentlessly to make sure that the lessons are learned – even if it takes many incarnations into physical form.