The four steps of inner child work

1 – Identify a negative behaviour (overeating, addictions, chronic lateness or lying, etc.)

2 – Find its root cause (the original event that triggered its first occurrence

3 – Grieve

4 – Forgive self and others for its occurrence

is02innerchildwork-smNot doing this self-work puts us at risk for developing many chronic diseases, but don’t just take my word for it. Science is now proving that our childhood experiences impact our health – check out this TED Talks presentation

Visit my website to learn to recognize our own traumatic experiences and how to resolve the issues that they have caused:



Common responses to everyday experiences and what they really mean

It may be hard to believe, but our words actually reflect what’s going on inside us. For example, saying something as simple as, “At least I’m not like that person” expresses a self-righteous attitude. Here are some more examples of everyday phrases that are loaded with hidden meaning:

* “I hate you and I will never forgive you” is Resentment

* “I will make you pay for hurting me” is Revenge

* “I’m mad at you so I’m not talking to you” is a form of Abandonment

* “It’s ok if I break the rules. Rules are for everybody else” is Arrogance

* “I don’t need this, but I’m keeping it so that you can’t have it” is Greed

* “It’s good, except…” is Judgment and Criticism

* “It has to be done this way, my way, the right way, the only way” is Perfectionism

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Why are people superstitious?

We like to think we have some measure of control over what happens in our lives, so we’re likely to repeat any action that we believe may have caused something good to happen or prevented something bad from happening, like knocking on wood or crossing our fingers or touching a lucky charm. Even though we may know that they really had no effect whatsoever, we do them anyway, “just in case”

Spiritual effects of the pattern: For some, the chosen actions can become OCD behaviours, ultimately producing an inability to make it through the day without performing these rituals

Physical effects of the pattern: OCD behaviours like excessive hand-washing, hair removal or self-cutting

How to change the pattern: Treat each attempt as if it were the first, doing our best as often as possible and put our efforts into accomplishing the task at hand instead of worrying what might happen if we don’t do the ritual. Visit Section 3 of my website and learn to meditate, to identify and resolve the root cause(s):

Why do we believe that evil spirits are causing our pain / disease / life problems?

 This is a holdover from time immemorial, from the days of our ancestors having no other way to explain why bad things happen to good people. Many still hold this belief system – they go to great lengths to find someone to expel the demon(s) and will pay huge amounts of money to have it done. The scientific method ushered in the study of modern medicine, which has provided humanity with treatments and cures for many conditions and disorders, but still no explanation beyond their physical cause, of just why they happen. While it is far easier to blame evil spirits than to accept responsibility for one’s life circumstances, I am here to tell you that recognizing  – and changing – our negative thoughts, attitudes and emotions improves / heals / cures our physical ailments beyond belief, especially when this self-work is done in conjunction with medicine. Check out my blog “Why do we get sick…”: